Hi, I’m Monica.
I first started The Dancing Carrot Project in late 2014, when I was leading a very different life. I was married and living in Colorado with my husband and two dogs. Now I am not married and living in Indiana with one dog.
Back then, and for the most of the next 7 years, I wrote mostly about food. Cooking food and eating food. I still cook, but not that much. And I still eat – of course – but I don’t eat a lot of big meals.
I loved writing The Dancing Carrot Project! But last November, I decided I needed a break from The Dancing Carrot Project, and from my life, actually. My Mom had just passed away after a 5-year battle with dementia. I’d been with her every step of the way and it had been a hard and heart-breaking journey. Shortly after she passed, I’d retired from my last job. It was a tough decision, but I wasn’t engaged, and my heart (and brain) wasn’t into it. I’d met a wonderful man, and things were moving along in a direction I wasn’t completely comfortable with.
Clearly, I had a lot of things to think about and a couple of major decisions to make. After having been focused on Mom for so long, I needed to roadmap what I wanted the rest of my life to look like.
Now I’ve emerged from my six plus months of contemplation and re-balancing, and I’m back with The Dancing Carrot Project, Version 2. I made some tough, yet pragmatic decisions about where to live and how to manage that choice, as well as a few lifestyle decisions that ended up surprising even me. And, I had a birthday, which put me squarely into the last quarter of my life. I’m not a kid anymore which is kind of sad, but also kind of great. I can make choices based on the reality of my entire situation.
I decided that staying here – instead of high-tailing it back west as quickly as possible – made the most sense for me. I have a robust community of family and friends here. Plus, Sophie!. My house is awesome, and I have spent a lot of time and effort making it as life-style friendly as possible. I love that my siblings are all within a day’s drive, and that I get to see them on a regular basis. And that my closest brother is DIY-guy who loves to DIY my stuff, too.
I love my neighborhood, like my neighbors, and dig that I rarely go to the grocery store or the local tavern/restaurant without seeing someone I know. I have a great support team, an awesome dog-walker, and am friends with the consignment ladies. And, woo hoo! I can be on the golf course in 7 minutes.
And, I’m pretty fond of my fella. I *almost* headed off into the sunset with him, but we decided that probably wasn’t the best move for us. So, we split up. And, spent a long, cold, dark winter apart. But, that time was well-spent. When we re-connected, we each had a much clearer idea of what was important to each of us, and of how we could best mesh our lives in a way that didn’t feel confining, but makes us happy. The important thing is that we make each other happy, and being happy is what it’s all about.
Version 2 of The Dancing Carrot Project
I choose to be happy. I haven’t always made the best decisions about happiness, but I’ve learned from my mistakes. For a long time, I put the happiness of someone else ahead of my own happiness. That worked for a a while, but ultimately, ended up making me resentful and very unhappy.
So now, I choose to be happy.
And that’s what Version 2 of The Dancing Carrot Project is all about: being happy. I’m focused on doing things that make me happy, with people who make me happy and for people who make me happy. Life is short, and I don’t know how many good years I have left. But I want those years to be as happy as possible.
Here at The Dancing Carrot Project, V2 I’ll still share recipes because cooking makes me happy. I’ll write about my house and tell you about Sophie, because she makes me happy. I’ll tell you about friends and family and golf and about how great love and sex is at this point in my life. Because all of those things make me happy.
Join me as I enjoy being happy in Evansville, Indiana with Sophie by my side, and under my desk.